From women Band alumni: Joking about sex is not sexual assault

Dec. 13, 2016, 11:56 p.m.

Dear administrators,

Women like sex and jokes about sex.

Women do not like to be assaulted.

We can tell the difference.

Your recent efforts to sanitize the culture of the LSJUMB by removing mildly suggestive street signs and words like “sexion” from the band lexicon strike us as textbook “benevolent sexism.” That is, chivalrous ideas and actions that claim to benefit women while actually reinforcing sexism in assuming that women are weak and need protection. Benevolent sexism works in tandem with hostile sexism (which overtly denigrates women and excuses violence against them) to reinforce rape culture.

Disempowering the incoming, first-ever 100 percent female top band management also strikes us as a blow against, rather than for, women. The intent of Title IX was to ensure equal opportunity regardless of gender, and Title IX coincided with women musicians in the LSJUMB for the first time. What a bitter irony to invoke it in eliminating the first all-female band leadership.

The LSJUMB has seen many women in leadership roles; these women leaders have ironically been disrespected by University administrators in the past despite their clear competence and effectiveness. Besides offering numerous leadership and management opportunities for women, LSJUMB has also been a safe haven for gender expression of all kinds.

We were also the first band in our conference to regularly play at women’s athletic events.

By all means, step up the fight against sexual violence on campus.

But don’t destroy the LSJUMB in our name. We don’t need that kind of help.

Sincerely,

Kelly Black Windsor B.A. ’82 (Mellz)
Patty Stokes B.A. ’85 M.S. ’86, Ph.D. (Mellz, PR)
Sabrina M. Weiss B.S. STS ’01 (Altoz)
Chris Shuttlesworth B.A. ’91, M.A. ’92 (Altoz, Propz)
Shannon Isenhower B.S. ’01, M.A. (Clarpicz)
Kathy Rehm Switky A.B. ’86, M.S. ’86 (Tenrz)
Tanicia Perry A.B. ’99 (Drum Major, Bonz Sexion Leader, Social, SBAB ’09-’14)
Kim Bourne B.A./M.A. ’03 (Trumpz, Alumni Relations)
Anna-Marie Blinn B.S. CSE ’94, M.S. CS ’96 (Trumpz, Librarian, Propz, Social Historian)
Eva Glasrud B.A./M.A. ’10 (Tenrz)
Allison R. Hayward B.A. ’85, J.D. (Bonz)
Marie Rowell B.A. ’07 (Mellz Sexion Leader)
Linnea Tracy B.S. ’15 (Clarpicz)
Kristen Kolberg B.S. ’16 (Trumpz Sexion Leader, Propz)
Mary Ringhoff B.A. ’96 (Bonz)
Linda Sawyer B.S. ’90, M.S., Ph.D. (Clarpicz/Tenrz, band parent)
Willow Naimark B.S. ’01, M.S. ’02, M.D. (Clairpicz, Propz)
Elaine Ballinger B.S. ’12 (Mellz Sexion Leader)
Kate Hanske B.A. ’10 (Clarpicz Sexion Leader, Treasurer)
Jilliane Bruffey B.S. ’13, M.S. ’14 (Manager, Ass Ma’am, Tenrz Sexion Leader)
Jill Gillingham ’91 (Bonz, ’88-’91)
Maria Doelger Anderson B.A. ’85, M.A. ’89 (Trumpz, founding member SBAB)
Cynthia Kepler-Karrer A.B. ’94 (Tenrz)
Hilary Bienstock Grayver B.S. ’00, M.A. ’01 (Trumpz, Graphix, Alumni Relations)
Rachel Sacks Shih B.S. ’97 (Tenrz)
Jenny Oja Mailhot B.S. ’96 (Toobz, Graphix, Social, Clarpicz Sexion Leader)
Suzy North B.S. ’97 (Clarpicz, Trumpz, Propz)
Lydia Tolles Rossiter B.A. ’01 (Clarpicz Sexion Leader)
Wendy Ellis Simon B.S./B.A. ’01, M.D. (Clarpicz)
Katie Narver Thompson B.S. ’06 (Mellz Sexion Leader)
Angela Celio Doyle B.A. ’96, M.A. ’97 (Tenrz, Propz, Alumni Relations)
Wendy Marinaccio Husman (ABF Sexion Leader, Dollie)
Gretchen DeVries B.S. ’02 (Clarpicz Sexion Leader)
Bente Lundh B.A. ’82, M.D. ’88 (Clarpicz, Dollie parent)
Sarah Wilson BS ’17, MS ’18
Melissa Martinez McClone B.S. ’86 (Clarpicz, Librarian)
Michelle Joyner B.A. ’10 (Altoz Sexion Leader, Librarian)
Lizz Fay B.A. ’11 (Tenrz Sexion Leader)
Clare Constantine B.S. ’12 (Tenrz, Historian)
Amelia Brooks (Clarpicz, Recruiterz)
Serena Patitucci Torvik B.A. ’92, J.D. (Bonz, Trumpz)
Kalena Masching (Propz)
Katherine Bernstein B.S. ’16 (Altoz Sexion Leader, Webmaster)
Kate Schmitt B.A. ’00, M.S. (Bonz Sexion Leader)
Jennifer Hansen Koziel B.S. ’90 (Tenrz)
Denise Doyen Gallardo B.A. ’77 (Flute, Dollie ’74-’75)
Kimberly Myers Hewlett B.A. ’99, M.B.A. (Altoz, Propz, Social, Treasurer, Alumni Relationz)
Lynn Baker Fischer B.S. ’84, M.A. ’88 (Soprano Sax, Current Band Mom)
Sally Lape B.S. ’16 (ABF Drumz)
Stephanie Wien B.S. ’96, M.S. ’97 (Trumpz)
Nancy Greene A.B. ’78, J.D. ’83 (Clarpicz, Altoz)
Cassandra Knight A.B. ’91, J.D. ’94 (Clarpicz Sexion Leader, first woman Propz Manager)
Robyn Harrison Alexander (Bonz ’90-’91)
Jacki Williams-Jones B.A. ’76, M.A. ’77 (Clarinet, ’72-’73, ’75-’77, Dollie ’73-’74)
Kira L. Krimkevich B.A. ’10 (Tenrz Sexion Leader, Social)
Lisa Smith McCann B.A. ’06 (Tenrz)
Marin J. Melchior B.A. ’92 (Toobz, Mellz & Drum Major)
LindaKay Brown B.A. ’90 (Manager, Ass Ma’am, Mellz Sexion Leader)
Ellen Kettler B.S. ’15 (Tenrz Sexion Leader, PR Recruiter)
Carla Murray Kenworthy B.A. ’77 (Dollie ’76-’77)
Linda Buddenberg Reed B.A. ’77 (Dollie ’74-’75)
Rachel Hogue (Bariz/Tenrz/Toobz, ’06-current)
Sarah Truebe B.S. ’06, M.S. ’07, Ph.D. (Piccolo)
Joanne Stewart B.A. ’82 (Clarpicz)
Susan Stocker Shields B.A. ’86 (Altoz)
Helene Leichter A.B. ’83 (Clarpicz)
Jill Wurzburg B.A. ’08 (Bonz, Recruiter, Treasurer)
Lenita Williamson B.A. ’83, M.D. ’87 (Dollie)
Sarah Weaver B.A. ’05, M.A. ’06 (Clarpicz Sexion Leader)
Gayle Gardner Sacher B.A. ’84 (Mellz)
Angela Haydel Debarger A.B. ’96, Ph.D. ’02 (Trumpz Sexion Leader, Librarian, Alumni Relations)
Liz Shackmann B.S. ’09, M.S. ’09, M.D. (Manager, Ass Ma’am, Social, Dollie)
Lisa Archer B.A. ’86 (Altoz)
Emily Vogel B.A. ’11, M.A. ’12 (Bonz, Recruiter, Social)
Erin Thompson B.A. ’98 (Trumpz, Social)
Carrie Edwards B.S. ’07, M.S. ’08 (Dollie ’04-’05)
Stella Cousins B.S. ’04, Ph.D. (Manager, Ass Ma’am, Mellz Sexion Leader)
Tiffany Lewis Neal B.A. ’02 (Trumpz, Propz)
Amanda Klein B.A. ’13, M.A. ’14, M.Ed. ’15 (Mellz, Librarian, Logistix)
Annell von Reinhart  B.A. ’07, M.D. (Clarpicz Sexion Leader)
Amy Blasberg B.A. ’05 (Bonz Sexion Leader, Social, Alumni Relationz, SBAB ’05-’08)
Tracey Atkinson B.S. ’15 (Altoz)
Claire Bacher B.A./B.S. ’96 (Manager, Bonz)
Brooke Landis B.A. ’89 (Altoz Sexion Leader, Librarian)
Camryn Douglass ’13 (Bonz, Writerz)
Sarah Beller B.A. ’15, M.S. ’16 (Tenrz)
Sara Ramsey B.A. ’14 (Trumpz)
Julie Green-Heffern B.A. ’04 (Clarpicz)
Meagan Moroney B.A. ’10 (Altoz, Drumz, Recruiter, Social, Alumni Relationz)
Janelle Thompson B.S. ’98, M.S. ’99 (Mellz)
Barb Egan B.S. ’88, M.S. ’89 (Tenrz)
Karen Ambrose Hickey B.S. ’85 (Tenrz)
Tracy Sauerwein B.S. ’86, M.S. ’88 (Clarpicz Sexion Leader, Librarian)
Erin Mallery B.A. ’01 (Toobz Sexion Leader, Social, Id)
Ashleigh Wais B.S. ’14 (Altoz Sexion Leader)
Becca Swett B.S. ’07 (Altoz)
Tina Lin B.S. ’07 (ABF Drumz, Social)
Molly Cain B.A. ’15 (Bonz, Alumni Relationz)
Wallis Robinson ’16 (Toobz Sexion Leader, Graphix)
Alison Buchsbaum B.A. ’15, M.Ed. ’17 (Clarpicz, Tenrz, ABF)
Karen Hurst B.S. ’88, Ph.D. (Tenrz, Historian, SBAB)
Rika Takahashi B.S. ’98 (Clarpicz Sexion Leader)
Roselyn Miller B.A. ’16 (Mellz Sexion Leader, PR/Recruiterz)
Katherine Holt A.B. ’77 (ABF DRUMZ)
Bonnie Bratnober (ABF Drumz ’00-’05)
Georgia Andrews B.S. ’11 (Clarpicz Sexion Leader, Treasurer)
Jen Dillinger B.A. ’04 (Altoz)
Martha Smith Nelson B.A. ’10 (Drumz, Social, Alumni Relationz)
Susan Lindheim B.A. ’90 (Tenrz)
Bianca Ceralvo B.A. ’09 (Mellz)
Rebecca Rambow Bishop B.A. ’97 (Mellz, Trumpz Sexion Leader)
Cari Pang Chen B.A. ’97, M.A. ’98 (Bonz)
Leigh Kinney B.A. ’16 (Dollie ’13-’14, ABF Drumz)
Irene Maharam Boyd B.A. ’73 (Dollie)
Becky James A.B. ’87, J.D. ’90 (Clarpicz)
Hilary Hall Bartels B.S. ’82, M.D. (Dollie)
Celeste Baranski B.S. ’79, M.S. ’80 (Clarpicz, Secretary)
Katie Port (Tenrz, AB ‘99, AM ‘00)
Juli Espinoza (Tenrz Sexion Leader, BA ‘94)
Rachel Mellon (Altoz, Alumni Relationz, BS ‘16)
Loretta Miramontes (Dollie, ‘74-74, BS ‘75)
Kelli Cree (Altoz Sexion Leader, Propz, BS ‘94)
Alex Camacho (Altoz BA ‘87)
Dawn Crocker Tucker (Bonz, AB ‘86, MS ‘88)
Kristen Ho (Bonz, Social, BS 98)
Alexandra “Zaz” Harris (Trumpz, Treasurer, BS/MS ‘01)
Lindsay Mozotti (Dollie, ‘96-’97, MD ‘99)
Linnea Shieh (Altoz Sexion Leader, Propz, BS ‘05)
Brittney Jenson ( Dollie, ‘96-97, ‘99)
Charmaine Berry (Dollie, BA ‘75, MS ‘79)
Ann Haas (Mellz Sexion Leader, BA ‘79)
Capella Kerst (Clarpicz, PhD ’18)
Lynne Sangster Fovinci (Mellz, BA ’79)
Emily Giglio (Dollie ‘12-’13, BA ‘15)
Sabrina E. Stoltz (Flutz, Piccoloz, BA ‘70, MD ‘84)
Elena Camacho Beyers (Dollie ‘77-78, BA ‘79)
Merrill Langfitt Guerra (Bonz, Propz Wench, Band Manager, AB ‘91)
Kathy Neal (Altoz, BS ‘78)
Adrienne Jarketsky (Violinz, MS ‘86)
Vicky Takatsuka-Cleaveland (Dollie, ‘86-’87, BS ‘89)
Shaine Morris (Dollie, ‘95-’96, BS ‘98)
Emily Roley Merrill (Dollie, BA ’99 MD ‘87)
Lauren Palumbi (Clarpicz Sexion Leader , Propz, BA ‘10)
Irene Balcar (Dollie, MS ‘73, MD ‘77)
Roxannne Hernandez Coyne (Altoz, BA ‘86)
Sangini Majmudar Bedner (Dollie ‘93-’94, BA ‘96)
Becky Sangster Jensen (Altoz, BA ‘82)
Tracy McLean (Dollie, ‘96-97, BA ‘99)
Corinne Chapman Morse (Dollie, ‘96-97)
Courtney Yang (Dollie ‘13-’14, BS ‘16)
Janice Baker (Clarpicz, Tenrz, BS ‘82, MD)
Pam Guzy (A.B. ’81 Dollie, athletic department liaison)
Carol Gamez (A.B. ‘82 Dollie)
Emily Grubert, B.S. ’09, PhD ’17 (Clarpicz)
Ann Remley Scheder-Bieschin, B.S. ‘85 (Mellz, Librarian, parent of Bonz)
Simone Cox, BA ’78 (Dollie 77-78)
Laura Klein A.B. ’93 (Tenrz, Graphix)
Donna Ornitz, B.S. ‘83, M.D. (Clar-picz)
Nikki Borchardt Campbell, A.B.’ 04, M.A. ‘05 (Dollie)
Libby Williams, A.B. ‘89 (Altoz)
Sarah Young, A.B./B.S. ‘96 (Altoz)
Kelli Anderson, A.B. ‘84 (Altoz)
Kelly Gregg, A.B. ‘15 (Bonz, Socialz)
Erica Heiman, A.B. ‘03 (Clarpicz)
Tina Jahncke, B.S. ‘00, M.S. ‘01, (Tenrz Sexion Leader, Propz, Librarian)
Mary Carrizal Brower, A.B. ‘78, M.D. (Clarinet, first female Co-Librarian)
Valicia Saucedo Trowbridge, B.A. ‘05, J.D. (Tenrz)
Leilani Ludwick, B.S. ‘00, M.A.’01, (Dollie)

 

 

Contact Kelly Windsor at kellybwindsor ‘at’ gmail.com.

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